Not enough can ever be said about the merits of and positive results from foreplay; it’s your best return on investment. Trust me, combining excellent kissing with sensual foreplay is an absolute game changer.

Kissing

Let’s start with kissing. Start slowly, and softly. Allow the passion to build – and then the pressure. What to avoid? Wet, sloppy kissing. Wide open mouths. Tongues like washing machines – going round and round, or worse, stiffened into an obelisk, mimicking other tense parts of their body. Sorry to have to let you know, but the number of women who enjoy kissing with a rigid tongue darting back and forth wildly is next to zero. In twenty years I’ve never encountered a single escort who enjoyed it.

Keep communicating. If you’re unsure of your technique, ask her to kiss you the way she likes to be kissed, then relax and concentrate on what she’s doing. Pay attention to the amount of pressure she’s using, or saliva she’s sharing, and when you think you’ve got it, kiss her back the same way.

Honestly gentlemen, get that right and any multitude of sins will be – if not forgiven – overlooked. Good kissing is your gateway to happiness. Bad kissing is her highway to hell.

Foreplay

Fifteen minutes of foreplay, done well, will give her time to reach your level of arousal and give you an added bonus by prolonging yours. Caressing and kissing her gently while slowly starting to explore her body will allow her to relax, trust you and let go. The aim is to allow her to enjoy the gradual build-up of excitement together with you. A hand on a breast and a finger rammed in a vagina is not foreplay.

As one escort said to me: “Write about building anticipation, mention that doing things like lightly tracing their fingers down our backs, or starting at our toes and slowly kissing every inch of our body doesn’t go astray. I still remember the time a client, an older gentleman – who I thought would be just awful – kissed me all over so slowly. I closed my eyes and it felt AMAZING.”

There’s no hurry to cross the finish line. And, if you’re seeing an escort, you’ve paid for this time so slow down and find pleasure in it.